Step 3a, adult relationships
Intimacy, communication, needs, boundaries, and how you relate in adult life.
You and your adult relationships, you and existence
Step 3
Step 3 is two independent weeks, and you choose for yourself whether to take one, the other or both. 3a is about your adult relationships and 3b about the existential questions. Once you have taken Step 1 and Step 2, you can take them in whichever order you like.
Length7 days, 8 nights
FormatResidential
PrerequisiteSteps 1 and 2
PhoneHanded in
AccommodationPrivate room, all meals, vegetarian
GroupVaries with the number of couples
PriceSEK 39,000 per week including VAT
Companiesexcluding VAT · Price and payment
Two independent weeks, each answering a question of its own.
Step 3a, you and your adult relationships
This week is about how you are together with another adult. Closeness and sexuality, communication, boundaries, needs, the masculine and the feminine, how you act when the two of you end up in conflict, and the patterns of attachment you learned early, that is, your own ways of seeking and avoiding closeness.
It is a life-affirming week, and at the same time the one that most reliably stirs up old wounds. The two belong together, because it is in closeness to another person that the old wounds show themselves.
It is a fine week to take together with a partner, and it suits you just as well if you live alone and perhaps long for a relationship, because the work is about your way of relating and not about one particular person.
The week rests on named theory that many will recognise, Gottman's relationship research and the five love languages among others, and the tone is different from Step 1, lighter and more playful.
Step 3b, you and existence
This week is the hardest to describe briefly, and it is also the most open. The question it asks is who you are beyond body, thoughts and feelings.
This makes room for what is sometimes called spirituality, but the week is neither judgemental nor tied to any faith, so you need no belief and no affiliation in order to take it. It is about loosening your grip on the habitual ideas of who you are and of what is possible, and seeing what remains when you do.
What is required
To take Step 3 you need to have taken Step 1 and Step 2, with us or at the former Mullingstorp. If you took the courses there, they count. The reason is simple, because in order to work with how you relate to other people today, you first need to have seen which patterns you carry with you from home.
The two courses are independent of each other, and you choose for yourself whether to take one, the other, both, or neither of them.
Two directions, no set order
One of the weeks looks at what happens between people, and the other turns inwards, towards identity, presence and existence.
How do I meet closeness, intimacy, needs and boundaries in adult relationships?
Who am I beyond the ideas about myself that have become habitual?
Which theme feels most alive for me now, after Steps 1 and 2?
3a and 3b are different courses
They rest on the same foundation but look in different directions, and you do not need to take 3a before 3b or the other way round. Perhaps you already sense which of them is yours, and if not, we are glad to talk it over.
Step 3b, existence
Presence, identity, and the question of who you are beyond habitual ideas.
Prerequisites, Steps 1 and 2 first
Both weeks build on what you did in Step 1 and Step 2.
Read also
The courses, step by stepRead how the four courses fit together and what comes before each.
Step 1Step 1 is where everyone begins, seven days spent taking a closer look at your own life.
Common questionsThe questions that can feel uncomfortable to ask are here too.
Price and paymentSee what SEK 39,000 includes, why the VAT can differ, and how you can spread the payment.
Upcoming Step 3
The week starts on Wednesday evening and ends on Thursday, seven days and eight nights. The dates below include both the arrival day and the departure day.
DatesStepStatusCourse leader
28 July–5 August 2027Step 3bNext course · places available
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We get back to you and answer your questions. Registering your interest commits you to nothing, and you decide only after your conversation with us.
Not sure which of the two is yours? Ring us and tell us how you are, and we will think it through together.